A new study sees cuckolding becoming more popular with gay couples.
According to a recently released study from David Ley, Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, cuckolding has seen a growth in popularity amongst gay couples.
The study, which was conducted with 580 gay men, found that the idea of a romantic partner engaging in sexual activity with another person had increased within the gay community.
Savage, writer of the “Savage Love” sex column for The Stranger, spoke to CNN about how cuckolding had already been popular within straight couples for a while but since marriage equality passed in America, he has heard of more gay couples who take part in the fantasy.
Speaking about the results of the study, David Ley said:
This fantasy has been around as long as marriage and sexuality, but we’re hearing more and more about it these days, and more people are rejecting the social stigma against this fantasy.
In a society or culture that idealizes monogamy, the cuckold fantasy is a current narrative that is available to people to conceptualize their sexual fantasies.
As part of research for his upcoming book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help Improve Your Sex Life, Justin Lehmiller found that 58 percent of men and a third of women had fantasized about cuckolding.
For gay men, cuckolding isn’t quite as taboo because the norm of lifelong monogamy isn’t so strong in the LGBT community. However, it can still be arousing for a number of other reasons.
For any couple who fantasizes about cuckolding and wants to try it within their relationship, there are some boundaries and rules that need to be applied to ensure nobody gets hurt. Dan Savage recommends:
The reality of watching your spouse have sex with someone else–or knowing they’re doing it, if you’re not there–is often very different than the fantasy. It can dredge up powerful emotions, so take baby steps and keep talking and communicating.
“That said, the rewards can be amazing, according to couples who have successfully folded cuckold play into their relationships.