The dating struggle can be real.
If you’re anything like us, dating can often be a stress-filled minefield that can be tricky to navigate – sometimes to the point where you wonder if there’s even any point. However, despite the pressure of finding the right venue and outfit to wear, and then having to impress them as well, dating can be an amazing experience that leads to a great night filled with fun and romance.
A lot of the time the outcome of a date can depend on the mind-set and attitudes of the individuals involved. To coincide with Stress Awareness Month, the lovely people over at dating app happn have provided us with some romance tips that will help knock the stress out of your dating life courtesy of their trend expert, Claire Certain – we’re forevz grateful.
Trust your instincts
Chances are, by the time you arrange a date, you have already spoken to the other person, whether its texting or talking on the phone. It is good to listen to your gut, does the conversation flow well enough to last the whole dinner? Are you excited to hear from this person? Don’t force interactions if the spark isn’t there, feeling comfortable with the person you are about to meet means you will feel less anxious. Be mindful of butterflies (the good kind), its totally natural to feel nervous, but try to embrace the feeling.
Put your detective hat on
Don’t worry, we don’t need to find out their shoe size, address and check out all their exes on Facebook, but a little insight into their likes and dislikes is key before any date. It is incredibly important to find out your partner’s interests and helps to avoid the nerve-wracking silences and repetitive conversation.
Be comfortable in your environment
A good rule of thumb is to make sure the place you are going to is comfortable and on familiar ground. You’ll feel far more relaxed if you’re in a place that puts you at ease and allows you to chat more freely. It’s OK to have a few drinks to help with the nerves but try to not drink too much either.If you’re worried about not having enough to say, try a date where there is an activity involved.This allows you to help the conversation along a little before it starts to flow naturally. Just be patient and find enjoyment in the situation, it will automatically lower any stress levels. If it gets too awkward, don’t forget to laugh it off and try to learn from the experience.
Earlier is better
A little trick we learned along the way is to make the date earlier in the week. This trick shifts the pressure off the weekend where the expectations reach peak, no need to feel this pressure on a first date. Rather than a big dinner or drinks it’s simpler to meet for a coffee mid-week or an after work drink. This will create a comfortable space for you both and will be easier to escape should the things do south.
Being a part of the dating scene makes rejection unavoidable. Chances are, you will meet people after a few dates who will simply be not that into you and vice versa. This is perfectly OK! It sucks, but it’s always worth remembering that you are in control of how it will affect you. Avoid dwelling on bad dates, instead try to learn from the experience. Keep your expectations in check and understand that a rejection doesn’t mean you are not good enough, it just means you and your date are not suitable for each other. When you have the right attitude, you’ll feel less stressed, be able to wave off rejections, and find a suitable partner that is truly for you.
Now, what are you waiting for? Go forth, you dating champion!